{"id":1051,"date":"2013-11-10T14:41:45","date_gmt":"2013-11-10T19:41:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/starr-commonwealth-new.local\/?p=1051"},"modified":"2019-05-21T14:45:03","modified_gmt":"2019-05-21T18:45:03","slug":"the-importance-of-receiving-help-and-how-to-ask-for-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/starr.org\/2013\/the-importance-of-receiving-help-and-how-to-ask-for-it\/","title":{"rendered":"The Importance of Receiving Help – and How To Ask For It"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Sometimes the act of asking for help can be more difficult than just doing the task yourself. Military families are not strangers to adjusting family roles and taking on extra responsibilities, especially during times of deployment. Asking for help and allowing yourself to receive help can be two of the most challenging aspects of adjusting your life while your soldier is deployed. There are several reasons why it is important to share your burdens, and ways to go about it that won\u2019t leave you feeling helpless or alone.<\/p>\n

Why Accept Help?<\/h3>\n

Whether you are the spouse, sibling, child, or parent of a soldier, your life alters when your soldier is deployed. The contributions your soldier would typically make at home, both tangible and emotional, can\u2019t easily be replaced. However, allowing those around you to help you not only eases your responsibility load, but it can give someone who is helping a feeling of contributing to more than just your family. For those people without loved ones in the military, assisting those who do have soldiers in their lives can be one way they are able to support military families and the troops. Perhaps one of the biggest reasons of all, though, why accepting help is a positive thing, is that it will give peace of mind to your soldier to know that you are not alone and that you are supported.<\/p>\n

How Can You Ask for Help and Receive It?<\/h3>\n

First and foremost, don\u2019t just dismiss offers of help or generosity. You don\u2019t need to accept on the spot, but you can let the person know that you appreciate the kindness and that there might be a time in the future when you need the help. You can even ask what the best way is to get ahold of them \u2013 phone, email, or other \u2013 so that if the need arises you have some way of reaching them and accepting help.<\/p>\n

When someone says, \u201cLet me know if there is anything I can do,\u201d you might be tempted to shout, \u201cMake this deployment over today!\u201d However, try to refrain asking nearly the impossible, and instead find some little ways that others might help ease your stress level. These things might be:<\/p>\n

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  • Drive the kids to practice one day a week.<\/li>\n
  • Provide a meal one day a week.<\/li>\n
  • Help with a home maintenance project, even as simple as rearranging furniture.<\/li>\n
  • Assist with yard work.<\/li>\n
  • Help with pet care \u2013 walking the dog and checking in on pets can be ways for even kids to help share the responsibilities at home.<\/li>\n
  • Be available to listen to the stress so you don\u2019t have to dump on the kids or someone who is going through the same stresses as you are already.<\/li>\n
  • The list goes on and on!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    You can even keep a list handy of \u201cone time\u201d things that you need help with that normally your soldier would be there to do. Keep another list of people who you know are willing to help with certain tasks, and one more list of people who have simply offered to do anything. Even though you might never call upon these people, having the tangible proof that you are surrounded by support can ease stress.<\/p>\n

    It is important to remember that even if someone hasn\u2019t offered to help, it doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t or shouldn\u2019t ask. Sometimes people are just waiting for the invitation because they don\u2019t want to offend you and present an image that they don\u2019t think you are capable. You can also seek out other sources of support from places such as:<\/p>\n

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    • Churches<\/li>\n
    • Community outreach programs<\/li>\n
    • Neighborhood groups<\/li>\n
    • Online forums<\/li>\n
    • Military resources<\/li>\n
    • Family<\/li>\n
    • Co-workers<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Asking for help is not easy for most people, but if we can pay it forward and offer help to others, sometimes that action allows us to accept help at some point in our own lives. In the end it is much better to swallow a little pride, accept the generosity of friends and strangers alike, and take care of yourself as your soldier would want to be able to take care of you<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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